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So, there’s a new discussion coming up in the asexual community, one that says that the typical asexual refrain of “I don’t have any physical issues that interfere with having sex, I haven’t been abused, I’m not mentally ill, and I don’t think sex is gross” is problematic.

This is completely true.

As someone who can say the above line, I naturally missed how problematic it was, but the fact is that some asexual-spectrum people are mentally ill, or have physical problems that get in the way of sex, or have been abused, or are sex-repulsed.

Asexual-spectrum people are people. Some people are mentally ill, or have physical issues, or have been abused, or think sex is a whole lot of nothing they ever want any part of. And some people who fall into any of those categories are asexual.

Asexual-spectrum folks who can say “I don’t have any physical issues that interfere with having sex, I haven’t been abused, I’m not mentally ill, and I don’t think sex is gross,” we have a duty to asexuals who can’t say that. We can not throw them under the bus so people don’t think we’re weird or broken, because they deserve to not feel weird or broken as much as we do.

To that end, I’ve made an action plan. I might have to change it, because it could be problematic, but until I hear otherwise, if someone asks if there’s something physically wrong with me, or if I’ve been abused, am I mentally ill or why do I think sex is gross, then what I’m going to say is, “The answer to that question does not change the fact that I am asexual, no matter how much you want it to, and frankly, if you don’t already know the answer to the question, there is a reason.”

The long and short of it is that noone is ace-spectrum “for a reason,” just as noone is any other sexuality for a reason. Which means that none of the cases we’re refuting can invalidate someone’s asexuality or demisexuality or gray-asexuality. You cannot claim something caused a sexuality, it’s a fucking moldy walnut thing to try and do, and anyone trying to do it is a moldy fucking walnut.

Additionally, it’s not your goddamned business what people are going through. If they have a medical condition, if sex grosses them out, if they’re mentally ill, or have been physically or sexually abused, that is for them to know, and that is for them to say, or not say at their own fucking discretion. They don’t need to prove themselves to anyone, not allosexuals, not other asexuals, not anyone, and if they’re gonna tell you this kind of shit, it’s going to be because they want you to know.

And if you’re using that kind of shit to invalidate their sexuality, then I say you sure as hell don’t deserve to know, but that’s just me.

Ace-spectrum folks who can say “I don’t have any physical issues that interfere with having sex, I haven’t been abused, I’m not mentally ill, and I don’t think sex is gross,” it’s time to pull up your big kid underwear and step the fuck up. Do not be like the cishet guy who throws a temper tantrum because he can’t fuck a lesbian.

Just avoiding saying problematic shit is not enough, we’ve created a hostile environment, we have to take steps to create a safer one. Call each other out. Call yourself out. Remember that life experiences do not invalidate sexuality.

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SocialJusticeWitch  I just wanted to get this out into the world before wank happened with this topic. (via pfdiva)
wtfeveridgaf:

jumpingbutnotforjoy:

Goth

Out of every pun and play on words I’ve seen on this site, this is the one that makes me so unreasonably angry.

wtfeveridgaf:

jumpingbutnotforjoy:

Goth

Out of every pun and play on words I’ve seen on this site, this is the one that makes me so unreasonably angry.

punkamis:

tbh the fact that asexuals get ‘awareness’ and not ‘pride’ should immediately alert you to the severe degree of marginalization we face even and especially within the queer community 

obviouslybenhughes:

jenniferrpovey:

jumpingjacktrash:

becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys:

ultrafacts:

Source For more facts follow Ultrafacts

YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Senegal, Mauritania, Mali, Burkina Faso, Niger, Nigeria, Chad, Sudan, Eritrea, Ethiopia, and Djibouti. Those are the countries. It will be drought-resistant species, mostly acacias. And this is a fucking brilliant idea you have no idea oh my Christ
This will create so many jobs and regenerate so many communities and aaaaaahhhhhhh

more info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Green_Wall
it’s already happening, and already having positive effects. this is wonderful, why have i not heard of this before? i’m so happy!

Oh yes, acacia trees.
They fix nitrogen and improve soil quality.
And, to make things fun, the species they’re using practices “reverse leaf phenology.” The trees go dormant in the rainy season and then grow their leaves again in the dry season. This means you can plant crops under the trees, in that nitrogen-rich soil, and the trees don’t compete for light because they don’t have any leaves on.
And then in the dry season, you harvest the leaves and feed them to your cows.
Crops grown under acacia trees have better yield than those grown without them. Considerably better.
So, this isn’t just about stopping the advancement of the Sahara - it’s also about improving food security for the entire sub-Saharan belt and possibly reclaiming some of the desert as productive land.
Of course, before the “green revolution,” the farmers knew to plant acacia trees - it’s a traditional practice that they were convinced to abandon in favor of “more reliable” artificial fertilizers (that caused soil degradation, soil erosion, etc).
This is why you listen to the people who, you know, have lived with and on land for centuries.

THIS is an incredible display of human knowledge and ingenuity.

obviouslybenhughes:

jenniferrpovey:

jumpingjacktrash:

becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys:

ultrafacts:

Source For more facts follow Ultrafacts

YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Senegal, Mauritania, Mali, Burkina Faso, Niger, Nigeria, Chad, Sudan, Eritrea, Ethiopia, and Djibouti. Those are the countries. It will be drought-resistant species, mostly acacias. And this is a fucking brilliant idea you have no idea oh my Christ

This will create so many jobs and regenerate so many communities and aaaaaahhhhhhh

more info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Green_Wall

it’s already happening, and already having positive effects. this is wonderful, why have i not heard of this before? i’m so happy!

Oh yes, acacia trees.

They fix nitrogen and improve soil quality.

And, to make things fun, the species they’re using practices “reverse leaf phenology.” The trees go dormant in the rainy season and then grow their leaves again in the dry season. This means you can plant crops under the trees, in that nitrogen-rich soil, and the trees don’t compete for light because they don’t have any leaves on.

And then in the dry season, you harvest the leaves and feed them to your cows.

Crops grown under acacia trees have better yield than those grown without them. Considerably better.

So, this isn’t just about stopping the advancement of the Sahara - it’s also about improving food security for the entire sub-Saharan belt and possibly reclaiming some of the desert as productive land.

Of course, before the “green revolution,” the farmers knew to plant acacia trees - it’s a traditional practice that they were convinced to abandon in favor of “more reliable” artificial fertilizers (that caused soil degradation, soil erosion, etc).

This is why you listen to the people who, you know, have lived with and on land for centuries.

THIS is an incredible display of human knowledge and ingenuity.

overlypolitebisexual:

cat people: dogs are cool too
dog people: cats don’t feel love did you know a cat once MURDERED my MOTHER

loki-has-a-tardis:

This is honestly the best poster I have found in a while supporting breast cancer awareness. I am honestly so sick of seeing, “set the tatas free” and “save the boobies”. There is no reason in hell a life threatening, life ruining disease should be sexualized. “Don’t wear a bra day,” go fuck yourselves. You’re not saving a pair of tits, you’re saving the entire package: mind, body, and soul included. Women are not just a pair of breasts.

loki-has-a-tardis:

This is honestly the best poster I have found in a while supporting breast cancer awareness. I am honestly so sick of seeing, “set the tatas free” and “save the boobies”. There is no reason in hell a life threatening, life ruining disease should be sexualized. “Don’t wear a bra day,” go fuck yourselves. You’re not saving a pair of tits, you’re saving the entire package: mind, body, and soul included. Women are not just a pair of breasts.

  • Guy in my class: Sir, what if we had a gay P.E. teacher? That'd be bad because he'd be looking at all the guys in shorts.
  • Teacher: You're assuming that all gay teachers are pedophiles.
  • Guy: Well...yeah.
  • Teacher: Carl I absolutely promise you that NO ONE in this school wants to have sex with you

spaghetticunt:

urtube:

lms if you’re a 90’s kid and remember columbus coming to america

1492 represent

valiumvision:

Artwork I made depicting both external & internal female anatomy  Female sexuality has been repressed for so long; girls are embarrassed or sacred of their own bodies  Don’t be!! Your body is beautiful and organic and natural and so pretty!!

valiumvision:

Artwork I made depicting both external & internal female anatomy
Female sexuality has been repressed for so long; girls are embarrassed or sacred of their own bodies
Don’t be!! Your body is beautiful and organic and natural and so pretty!!

webbgirl34:

thebigsisteryouneveraskedfor:

Gisella Perl was forced to work as a doctor in Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust.
She was ordered to report ever pregnant women do the physician Dr. Josef Mengele, who would then use the women for cruel experiments (e.g. vivisections) before killing them.
She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz”.
After being rescued from Bergen-Belsen concentration camp she tried to commit suicide, but survived, recovered and kept working as a gynecologist, delivering more than 3000 babies.

I want to nail this to the forehead of every anti-abortionist who uses the word “Holocaust” when talking about legal abortions.

webbgirl34:

thebigsisteryouneveraskedfor:

Gisella Perl was forced to work as a doctor in Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust.

She was ordered to report ever pregnant women do the physician Dr. Josef Mengele, who would then use the women for cruel experiments (e.g. vivisections) before killing them.

She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz”.

After being rescued from Bergen-Belsen concentration camp she tried to commit suicide, but survived, recovered and kept working as a gynecologist, delivering more than 3000 babies.

I want to nail this to the forehead of every anti-abortionist who uses the word “Holocaust” when talking about legal abortions.

girlwitacamera:

Me lol
Minneapolis MN | October 2014

i took this! <3

girlwitacamera:

Me lol

Minneapolis MN | October 2014

i took this! <3